For many of us, love is the center of life. And when love doesn’t flow, our days can feel empty and dry. This flow of love could be with a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Or it may be the precious love of / for a lifelong spouse.
ROMANTIC WORDS AND LOVE ACTIONS
Keeping that stream of love moving is a challenge many of us face every day.
I was married for 30 years until my loving husband died suddenly. And now, 4 years later, I am blessed to enjoy another wonderful full-time relationship. I’ve always had a keen interest in finding simple words and actions that will give my lover a boost.
Here are 7 things you can say and / or do to help keep that mysterious feeling we call “love” alive.
Talk – Romantic Words
1. “I am very grateful to have you in my life.”
These words are magic. Ten simple words that say a lot and can mend broken feelings. During our hectic days, we tend to overlook an expression of gratitude for each other as a way of being close. Say this to your loved one at any time, but especially when something nice has happened between the two of you. These words can deepen the feeling of trust and appreciation.
2. “I’m drinking you …”
These words are a bit riskier to pronounce, but powerful. You need to find the right time to say it so that you don’t feel silly. My husband used to be in the kitchen drinking his coffee and looking at me with loving eyes over the rim of his mug. Then I would say those 4 words. My heart would soar. I would tell him he was crazy. And we would laugh together at our good luck to be in love.
3. “Today I was thinking of things we can do together. Why not …?”
This requires some more thinking before speaking. Look for inexpensive, novel ideas that can be accomplished without much planning or work. Surprise him with the suggestion of a visit to an art gallery or a local concert. Suggest a walk in a nearby park. Or plan to take a bubble bath together. (You must provide the bubble bath crystals!) Or, as my boyfriend recently suggested, “Let’s eat the best hot dog in town!”
Take Action – Simple Romantic Actions
5. TOUCH
There is nothing like the pleasure of touch. The next time you have a happy thought about the man or woman you love, act on it. Get up, walk towards him / her and put your arms around him / her. Just hug. No sexual provocation is necessary. This is a time for the pleasure of a simple physical connection.
6. DANCE
It is very difficult to stay unhappy and disconnected when you dance together. Find the right time. Put on a song that you both like. Or maybe a song is playing on the radio … Take your loved one by the hand and dance. Don’t try to dance the entire song. A couple of minutes can change and improve your mood. You don’t have to dance well for this to have a great effect. Dance for the fun of it.
7. IMAGINE – Floating in a sea of love
Sometimes, it is not possible to involve your loved one in physical terms. He or she may be away from you, either physically (that is, miles away) or emotionally (you need to do healing work).
In that case, use your powers of imagination to close the distance in your own mind: love is not a fleeting, “once in a while” element in life. We are surrounded by that. Love flows from friends, family, and pets.
We are fed by the love we feel for our own lives; for our passions, our homes and our work. There is always an ocean of love around us. But sometimes, we can’t feel or express it.
When you feel like love is faltering between you and your loved one, try this: Find a few quiet minutes. Sit or lie down. Close your eyes. Visualize yourself and your loved one floating in a sea of love. You are surrounded by effortless love. You don’t ask him for anything because the two of you are surrounded by endless love. Feel the fear float away … and relax. Know that you will be fine, whatever happens. Then find ways to express your love to those around you. When your partner returns, they will be in a loving frame of mind and open to healing wounds or reestablishing a deep connection.