Are you in a marriage where you have that sinking feeling… where you say my wife can’t stand me?
This is a terrible feeling to have. I know because I had a time not too long ago when I had the exact same feeling.
But I was able to fix it, and I know you can too.
Exactly what to do today if you say my wife can’t stand me
One of the things that happens all too often when a husband begins to feel like his wife can’t stand him or doesn’t love him anymore…is he panics.
Along with this panic, they usually do something that is right…exactly WRONG!
You see, when you have this thought, or even your wife tells you that she can’t stand you, or that being around you makes her sick, or any of the terrible things a wife can say to hurt your feelings in a fit of anger or during a moment of indifference… you suddenly feel the need to try to make him change his mind.
You’ll do it by trying to make her see reason. You will tell her how much you love her. You will tell him how much it hurts to hear that. You will give her a list of all the great things you do for her.
Another thing you could do instead… and I’m guilty of… is that you’ll get mad. You will be angry because you feel you have been unfairly hurt. Then you will start yelling and yelling, maybe swearing and saying how much you hate her! You’ll tell her you can’t stand her either. Blah blah blah… lots of things you’ll feel horrible about later!
It’s about how you react when your wife can’t stand you…or at least says she can’t.
The truth is, if your wife can’t stand you, it’s probably simply because she’s no longer attracted to you.
No, I’m not referring to your appearance. It’s okay if you’ve gained some weight. Don’t go out and join a gym for that. Although, it is always good to join a gym and take care of yourself. What I mean is that your wife is no longer attracted to you as a man. She is not attracted to the man you have become.
It is likely that, with very good intentions trying to please his wife, he has become less of an alpha male (if he ever was to begin with) and more of a beta male that she unknowingly created from you.
In doing so, he has lost the carnal attraction factor that drives not only his wife, but all women, crazy. This is deeply imprinted in his DNA. They are looking for a man who is a leader. A man who knows who he is, and actually a man who does NOT need her. Sounds crazy right?
In fact, it probably defies everything you’ve probably learned from your mother, from television, magazines, books, and of course your wife. But the proof lies in the fact of how your wife reacts when you start to become the alpha male that attracts her to the core. And once that happens, you’ll never have to say my wife can’t stand me again.