Many men are in the dating game just for fun. They like meeting new women, chatting with them, getting their number, and meeting them again for dinner or coffee after a few days. You probably are, since you are reading this article. It’s a challenge to captivate a woman enough to give you her number after a few minutes, but it’s entirely possible if you make it all work. It’s really a fun thing to do, and women enjoy it too.
But what if she asks you to be her boyfriend? Suddenly she wants to change things from “dating” to a “relationship”, and she may be enough to scare some guys. What do you do when she suddenly speaks the “R” word?
It totally depends on you. Many relationships that start out halfway turn into really good bonds between a man and a woman that last a lifetime. But I think when you get into a relationship with a woman you’ve known for less than a few months, you run the risk of jumping into something that’s a little too hot to handle.
Dating is different from relationships. It is much easier to get a girlfriend than to keep one, since practically any man can get a girlfriend at least once in his life. Maintaining one, on the other hand, is an entirely different matter. When it comes to keeping a girlfriend and making her happy, you will need the benefit of having known her for more than a few months.
Why is this? Because it’s funny how a little disagreement can ruin a good relationship. Take at least three months to get to know each other really well, to see how the relationship can and cannot work. Both of you will need to know that a relationship is a two-way street, and you will need to compromise on a lot of things to make it work.
If you suddenly feel scared because she asked you to be her boyfriend, stay calm and collected. You can say something like, “Sure, call me whatever you want. But I’d like to get to know you a little more first, if it’s the same thing.” It’s not rude and shows that you’re open to the possibility, but at the same time, it protects both of you from getting hurt too soon.